Long distance relationships

So most people go through one at some point in their life's. It doesn't have to be an amorous relationship, it can be familiar, friendship, etc. The same ideas apply. At first it seems like it will be immensely difficult. Later as time goes on, you get used to the idea. You learn ways of talking to the other person more or seeing them more often. You learn to cope. But time wears on and your schedules conflict or it doesn't seem worth it anymore. You start talking less and less each time, then what? This is where I'm at right now. We talked as often as possible in the beginning, we even found a way to see each other over a weekend (this is an amorous relationship). Things seemed to flow smoothly and time seemed to go faster for a little while. But then we stopped talking as much at this point, it's good if I even get a phone call every night. Before it was a phone call every night and I must have gotten used to that, something I should never do, get used to things. I'm afraid that this will turn into a phone call every few days to a phone call once a week to maybe once every two weeks and then once a month. What do I do then? Maybe he can deal with minimal contact, but I can't. Maybe he doesn't want to deal with it anymore, but I'll never know because we don't talk. Let's say we make it, what will it be like when I return? Will things be the same, will it still work out? It's a constant subject that walks around my head. I can deal with things not being the same, but if they turn to the worst I don't know how long I could deal with. What if not seeing each other for so long has gotten us used to not being with each other? Will we still love each other as much as we did before? I hope that we love each other more and everything works out, but there are always "what if's?" Nothing is ever certain, that's why I shouldn't get used to things. That's why I'm a self proclaimed drifter. If nothing is ever constant, I'll never get hurt by CHANGE. I'll always embrace it. I know it's unrealistic, but a girl can dream. I'm uncertain when it comes to long distance relationships, does absence really make the heart grow fonder? Or is that just a saying that keeps people going? So many questions,twice as many answers. I will not know until I live it. Every situation is different. What worked for you might not for me. But it is good to keep your mind open, my motto is "Try most everything at least once." If you keep trying you can keep learning. Life is a challenge, but try it and you will be surprised. Make the most of what you have now and cherish that. You may never know what you had until you lose it. It's better to enjoy it when you have it than to miss it when you don't. And with that, my RANT ends.

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Writing is a great way to rid yourself of "boredom" and a great relief. Maybe people aren't reading, but you got it out. :) "Later days!"- The Weekenders

Embracing change.

CHANGE. It's inevitable. People change, circumstances change, life changes. EVERYTHING. But many people fight it. They are too comfortable with their routines and any thing that could deviate from normalcy is a threat. Not all change is bad as is true that not all change is good. What is true is that CHANGE is, well, change. It is a deviation from the ordinary. Being s restless drifter, CHANGE is an amazing thing to me. It allows my life to flow from one point to another without becoming adjusted to one thing. People often take for granted small changes they can make and never stray from ordinary. Even a small CHANGE will cause a rift in normalcy. I welcome CHANGE. It is inevitable, fighting it would be futile. At some point in everyone's life, there will be some form of CHANGE. It can be as simple as a change in hair products and as major as a life changing event (pregnancy, college, etc.) I also believe that CHANGE is necessary in everyone's life. I can't even imagine what life would be like if everything remained the same. Like a cartoons life, you'd wear the same clothes and do the same things day after day. I'd get that "stuck" feeling. CHANGE fights "boredom", so if you fight CHANGE you embrace "boredom." I for one am not about to embrace something that I believe does not exist. So don't fight CHANGE, it isn't going to go away. EMBRACE THE c h a n g e.

boredom and life

It seems like in everyone's life, at some point or other, there is this feeling of being "stuck." Well this "stuck" feeling may feel like boredom, but it isn't. It is habit, it is normalcy. It is being at the same job for years and not having gone up or down or left or right or any other direction. I am a restless person and I cannot stay doing the same thing for too long. I need to keep moving, I'm a drifter by nature. I like to say I'm a gypsy, but not to the full extent. Not everyone is like that, but everyone to some degree will feel "stuck." When that feeling surfaces, FIGHT IT! How exactly does one fight "stuck?" Well add a new activity to your life. meet new people. Join a book club, a jogging club, a photography club. Paint that picture you have always wanted to, share that with the world. This change in your life doesn't have to be drastic. Just don't be the ordinary you for a little while. Do something you normally wouldn't do. Simplicity is key for some, others need something drastic. Quit your job, look for another job. Maybe just find a side job. But get rid of that "stuck" feeling. It causes problems. You feel like you aren't doing all you could be, you become dissatisfied with everything and everyone. You can even go as far as pushing everyone away. What is the good in any of that? So instead, enrich your life! Go do something beautiful or something interesting. Take a trip! Even if it is just to the other side of town. You never know what awaits. "No puedes criticar a algo sin conocerlo primero." (Me Vale - Mana) Go out there and FIGHT! boredom.

Sickness and boredom

So when you get sick you are often sent to the infernal place called bed for bed-rest! I say infernal because it almost convinces you that you are "bored", but only when you are sick. Well depending on the severity of your sickness you will either be asleep most of the time or awake most of the time. If you have good friends then they will be right there with you trying to make you feel better, even if they get sick in the process. If not, then you better have books or a laptop. Or if you feel exceptionally daring you can write your own story. You can draw. You can photograph from a different angle. Of course while bedridden many of us do not feel like doing something too strenuous or using our brains. It is another great opportunity to expand your music library. But there are always things to do even if you are sick. So sickness advice, you're not bored, sleep or do something you'll be behind enough as it is!

Traveling and boredom

So traveling, the actual act of driving, flying, walking, etc. somewhere can seem "boring." Especially to kids. But like everything else it doesn't have to be. You may be driving, listening to music, trying to keep the driver awake, etc. Of course there are all those road games and activities, but that can definitely get old. I find myself deep in thought while traveling, usually I'm listening to music as well. But there are so many more entertaining things to do. Depending on the people you are with of course. A family vacation will never be like a road trip with friends. People watching is definitely a fun thing to do in either case though. When you are driving through a city people are bound to driving to work or from work. Many times I've seen people singing and dancing to music only they can hear. That is fun. Life on mute can be extremely hilarious. Another thing that is always fun is taking pictures, but from creative angles. Make it seems as if your car is pulling a boat. Maybe you are a giant that can grab a cow with your fingers. I don't know, be creative! Scream to the world because if you keep driving no one will know who screamed. Stop and make a new friend. Although picking up hitchhikers might not be a good idea. On a plane, your options are much more limited, but messing with sleeping people is always fun. Also being with the right person is always fun. A person that will challenge you to do more craziness, but who knows when enough is enough. So I guess today's non-boredom "key point?" is: Sometimes the journey can be more fun (and less boring) than the destination!

Sometimes day are just too busy....

Sometimes the problem isn't boredom, but too much to do. It seems to leave no time for beating boredom or adventure. These days suck. Plain and simple. But like boredom, you can make them interesting. When you're overloaded sometimes the best thing to do is take a mental health day! Sure you'll be behind, but at least you won't go SANE from just working all the time! It is necessary to have adventures every so often because otherwise life would be bland, like a naked toasted bagel. Cream cheese adds some interest, but add some salmon cream cheese (if that's your thing, it certainly isn't mine!) and you have an interesting bagel. So find your salmon cream cheese. Whether that be skydiving, meeting your next door neighbor, or talking to people in the grocery store. Whatever your thing is, go for it! But no one ever wants to only have salmon cream cheese on their bagel. Sometimes they want a wheat bagel or a jalapeño bagel. Maybe you want peanut butter on the bagel or maybe you want a sandwich bagel. Treat each day like a new bagel! Even if it is a busy bagel, you can always choose the topping or how to use the bagel!

Homework...boredom?

As the school week goes on with Monday come and gone, students get into the swing of things once more. This brings up a question: if you are doing homework are you bored? I don't think it qualifies as boredom. Boredom once again is doing nothing whatsoever. At least when you do homework, you are writing or trying to solve a problem. Granted sometimes you are thinking too much, but you are doing something. So in my opinion, homework is not boredom. It isn't the most interesting thing to do, but you aren't bored. Spice up your homework routine! Play some music while you are doing your homework and when a song that you absolutely love comes on, stop and rock out to the song! Mini breaks are amazing and they make homework go by so much quicker! Or explore different music. There is enough music out there that you will never be done exploring. The one thing that never fails me is the slinky! I can concentrate so much better when I am playing with a slinky that it seems like I am finished so much quicker. So in your quest to beat this so-called "boredom" be creative and find ways to make your homework time fun!